adult learner, Parents

A Different Hat

I ask you, dear reader, to bear with me, and grant me license to reflect. An acolyte is not exactly the right word for what I was trying to portray when I wrote this poem. Perhaps, a better word would have been “initiate”, but I never could get used to the way it sounds. Regardless, I think that the meaning becomes apparent. The poem is among a series that I wrote about five years ago, but it has never been published in written form before now.

My favorite part is the stanza that begins, “And now, I am a poet.” To me it feels like the poem kind helps you to realize you’ve been carried along by the poetry up until this point, and then kind of dropped into cold, hard reality. “…a husband, and a dad.”

community engagement

Culture, Community, Celebrations – 2023 Year in Review! 🎉🎊🎈

It has been a busy year for the Center for Student Engagement and Activities! Getting to connect with so many of our talented students over the last 12 months has left us endlessly honored, grateful, and inspired. As we’re wrapping up 2023, we wanted to go down memory lane and highlight some of the amazing moments we’ve had this year with our #NUfam!

We started off the year strong with our inaugural CSEA Webinar with Crystal Chisholm on Building your Personal Brand!

We went on to do five more webinars throughout the year on topics including social media, self-publishing, AI, goal setting, and mentoring! In case you missed it, you can view now these webinar recordings right here on our blog!

What topics/speakers would you like to see next?

Throughout 2023 we also had a variety of celebrations highlighting a diverse range of cultures, experiences, and wisdom.

At our events, we asked you:

About Hispanic Heritage:

Your thoughts on self-care:

We gamified learning:

Through various cultural lenses:

And of course, gave away lots of prizes! 🏆

In addition, we had some big wins for cultural competency and inclusivity through training over 50 members of our NU Community in creating Safe Zones for LGBTQIA+ communities and raising the inclusive pride flag for the first time at Spectrum Campus!

One of our favorite highlights from this year was getting to connect with our wonderful students and alumni in person!

We still fondly reminisce about our Lunar Year Celebration in February at Spectrum Campus. 🧧🎊 (View our full event recap here!)

And we will never forget the magic at the San Diego Pride Parade in July. 🌈✨

We highlighted some amazing students voices with our First-Generation and Military-Affiliated Panels. (Recordings also available on this blog!)

And we can’t forget the wonderful collaboration we did with Student Wellness and The Whole Person Center for our Guided Journaling Event!

To say this was a big year for us would be an understatement. We are truly humbled by the increase in engagement we’ve seen in 2023 and are so excited to see what 2024 has in store for us!

We will continue to provide opportunities for connection, learning, and joy for our students and we hope that you will be a part of this journey with us!

Keep up to date with our student organizations, events, and programs through our Linktr.ee! And be sure to check your NU email and your D2L container at the beginning of each month to see what we have in store!

Thank you again to everyone who took the time to connect with us, attend one of our events/webinars, join a student organization, and read our blog!

We wish you all a Happy Holiday Season and New Year! We’ll see you in 2024!

P.S. What was your favorite memory of 2023? Leave a comment to let us know!

Advice, community engagement, First generation, self care

Freedom in Letting Go

By Annyce Torres, President of Mind + Body Wellness Student Org

There is an oft repeated saying that “anything you have to control, controls you.”

Woman in front of railing.
Annyce Torres
President of Mind + Body Wellness Student Org

What are we holding on to that is limiting our freedom that we might not be aware of? As humans, we have the ability to weigh out our options and take inventory of what is best for us. We are usually able to understand the danger of holding onto things that no longer serve us and our highest goals. Unfortunately, so many of the hardships that we experience in life are those that we create for ourselves.

As a first-generation college student, I’ve had to take a hard look at the behaviors and beliefs that I’ve held onto over the years. I’ve had to realize that the behaviors that I used to engage in no longer serve me. They were adopted as tools used to survive in situations that I am no longer in. The beliefs that I used to have such as self-doubt and other limiting beliefs will not serve me as I move forward in my attempt to learn enough to serve others. The people that I used to associate with are not necessarily understanding of the direction that I am taking my life.

Woman in front of blue sky.
Annyce Torres
President of Mind + Body Wellness Student Org

Whether we are clinging to being “right,” anger and resentment, self-pity and self-doubt, or people that are not in line with our highest goals, we run the risk of placing those attachments ahead of our own well-being. We must take advantage of our ability to think critically. And as we engage in this self-examination it is best to remember that the trap itself is not the problem. It’s the choices that we make – and continue to make – that determine whether a trap is a trap after all. It is our willingness to let go that determines our freedom to move forward and live our best life-with the degree we are earning.

I’ll leave you with this story I once read about how hunters trapped monkeys in Africa and Asia:

Monkey in a trap drawing
Monkey Trap – image reference

It’s said that in order to catch the monkey, hunters would first drill a hole in a location just large enough for the monkey’s hand to go through and place a nut or fruit in it. Seeing the food, the money would reach through to grab it, but his closed fist would be too large to fit back through the hole, trapping it in place. Even as the monkey would see the hunter closing in on him, he still would not let go of the food in order to escape.

In the end, the monkey gives up his very freedom, in exchange for a handful of food. The monkey is blinded by its attachment to what is in front of him. Let this serve as a reminder for us to forward beyond our own attachments that may be holding us back and trapping us in toxic situations.

Continue the conversation! Take some time for yourself and connect with other students!

Join Annyce on the fourth Thursday of every month from 5-6pm PDT for the Mind + Body Wellness monthly meetings! You can join the meetings via this Zoom Link!

Open to all students! Find community with others interested in all things wellness! ✨🌻🙌

And don’t forget to follow @mindbodywellnessnu on Instagram for updates and mental health resources!